By Melissa McLaughlin
Have you ever worked for someone who was an excellent leader? Have you worked for someone who was not? Those serving in leadership positions have a great impact on us. Though we may not consider ourselves leaders, even in our personal spheres of influence, we impact one another more than we know.
Whether you are a stay-at-home parent, a student at school, an employee in the workplace, the coach of a community sports team, the pastor of a church, a blogger or the manager of business, God has placed each one of us in positions of influence and leadership in our families, homes, schools, neighborhoods, work environments, church ministries and in the world.
How can we reflect the truth, grace and beauty of Christ wherever God has placed us? How can we be a man or woman after God’s own heart?
David, A Man After God’s Own Heart
I have often wondered at the vast differences between the first two leaders who served as kings of Israel: King Saul and King David. They started off in much the same way. Both with humble beginnings. Both unlikely candidates. Both appointed to positions of leadership by God’s anointing. Yet despite the similar beginnings, their response to these opportunities brought about completely different endings.
When Saul was first called to leadership, he answered with humility. “But am I not a Benjamite, from the smallest tribe of Israel, and is not my clan the least of all the clans of the tribe of Benjamin? Why do you say such a thing to me?” 1 Samuel 9:21. Shortly after, when Saul was officially appointed King, he was found hiding in the baggage and supply area. (1 Samuel 10:21) How’s that for a show of humility?
Fast forward to Saul, now king, discussing with young David the possibility of marrying his daughter. David’s response was, “Do you think it is a small matter to become the king’s son-in-law? I’m only a poor man and little known.” 1 Samuel 18:23
Clearly both Saul and David had a humble view of themselves when first called into leadership. However, the likeness ends there.
The prophet Samuel gave this advice and warning to Israel’s first and newly anointed King Saul and to the people, “But be sure to fear the Lord and serve him faithfully with all your heart; consider what great things he has done for you. Yet if you persist in doing evil, both you and your king will perish.” 1 Samuel 12:24-25
For his first task as king, Samuel explicitly gave this one directive to King Saul, “I will surely come down to you to sacrifice burnt offerings and fellowship offerings, but you must wait seven days until I come to you and tell you what you are to do.” 1 Samuel 10:8b
Sadly, King Saul chose to go his own way. When Samuel did not come as quickly as King Saul wanted, King Saul proceeded to make the sacrifice himself. Offering a sacrifice to God was a sacred duty carried out by a priest, in this case, Samuel. For King Saul to be so impetuous and presumptuous was staggering. When Samuel confronted King Saul about this poor decision, rather than admitting his pride and self-imposed timeline, King Saul gushed forth with hollow excuses.
Samuel rebuked Saul with these words, “You have done a foolish thing,” Samuel said. “You have not kept the command the Lord your God gave you; if you had, he would have established your kingdom over Israel for all time. But now your kingdom will not endure; the Lord has sought out a man after his own heart and appointed him ruler of his people, because you have not kept the Lord’s command.” 1 Samuel 13:13-14
King Saul’s prideful and foolish decisions continued one right after another. He insensitively commanded his soldiers not to eat until they defeated the enemy, denying them the nourishment they needed for physical combat. King Saul displayed partial obedience regarding God’s command to destroy the enemy, by keeping back the best of the spoils for his own purposes. Worst of all, when King Saul was confronted by the prophet Samuel about his sinful choices, he lied, made excuses and blamed his own people. To top it all off, King Saul then asked Samuel to make a show of honoring him in front of the people.
King Saul left a trail of pride, disobedience, partial obedience, foolishness, lies, excuses and desire for fake honor. Such leadership is doomed.
Soon David was privately anointed king by God’s hand, though King Saul remained in the official position. Although David was the youngest in his family, God made it clear to the prophet Samuel that David, not the oldest son, had been chosen. Why? Because God looks upon the heart. But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him (the older son). For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7
King Saul’s poor leadership went from bad to worse, as he was flooded with jealousy over David’s accomplishments. King Saul went back on his word regarding the marriage of his daughter to David. On numerous occasions, King Saul attempted to kill David and in the process ordered a large group of priests and their families to be killed, out of his overgrown pride and self-aggrandizing. 1 Samuel 22 Unfortunately, we can add to King Saul’s list of character flaws jealousy, attempted murder and murder. Eventually, King Saul died in battle and the kingship was passed to David.
Now we watch David, another man who came from humble beginnings. Though King David also committed terrible sins during the course of his leadership, including lust, adultery, marrying multiple wives (denounced in Deuteronomy 17:17) and murder, he remained a man after God’s own heart.
How can this be? How can David, who committed such detestable sins, be considered a man after God’s own heart?
These are questions that swirled in my own my mind for years.
Here are three critical qualities that set David apart from Saul.
1. David demonstrated great faith in his battle against Goliath. His courageous words and actions proved that his faith was not in his own strength or power, but in the Lord God alone. 1 Samuel 17
2. David’s love for God and His Word was evident in his worship and in his words. David worshiped before the Lord in a linen ephod, which was a sleeveless priestly garment. His wife was embarrassed because she thought he should worship in his royal robes before the people, but David said he would humble himself before anyone in order to worship the Lord. His eyes were on God, not on his own power, not on his own riches or elegant robes, not on the other people, but on God alone. 2 Samuel 6:14-23
David wrote many of the Psalms declaring the goodness and righteousness of God and His laws. Though David endured many hardships and personal attacks, he loved the Lord and he loved God’s Word. This love rang out through his writing. In composing the Psalms, despite the emotional, spiritual and physical battles all around, David praised God and thanked God over and over again. A wonderful example of this is Psalm 18. Here are two of my favorite excerpts:
This excerpt captures David’s love for the Lord, as he recounts who God is and the great deeds God has done.
Psalm 18:1-3 – I love you, Lord, my strength. The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. I called to the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and I have been saved from my enemies.
This verse shows how David had a heart for God’s heart. He loved God’s law.
Psalm 18:30 – As for God, his way is perfect: The Lord’s word is flawless; he shields all who take refuge in him.
3. Repentance. Perhaps most importantly of all, when David was confronted by the prophet Nathan with the sins he had committed, his response was repentance. Unlike King Saul who lied, rattled off half-truths, made excuses and blamed his own people, King David responded with repentance. Repentance. Deep, honest, humble repentance. In 2 Samuel 12:13 David says, “I have sinned against the Lord.” The depths of his humility before the Lord echoes throughout Psalm 51. Though David’s pride led him into sin, when confronted with his sinful actions, his humility allowed him to be restored to the Lord.
This excerpt illustrates David’s profound humility and repentance before the Lord.
Psalm 51:1-3 – Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me.
Though David was a glaring sinner, he also exhibited several pivotal character traits:
1. Faith in God
2. Love for God and His law
3. Heartfelt repentance for his sins
We know that God looks upon the heart. He sees it all. God sees the secret sins and hidden faults that no one else can. But God also sees when we come with a humble heart and repentant spirit. God sees when we have faith in Him. God sees when we pour out our love for Him. God sees things that go unnoticed by others.
With all of David’s sins, yet he is counted as a man after God’s own heart. How can this be?
How can a sinner like David, and a sinner like me, be a person after God’s own heart?
1. Faith in God
2. Love for God and His law
3. True repentance for our sins
Faith, Love, Repentance. These are heart qualities. Though we stand sinful and broken before our pure and perfect God, when we come to Him with these heart qualities – faith, love and repentance, we can be a man or woman after God’s own heart. These inner qualities affect not only our relationship with the Lord, but they create ripples of Christ’s truth, grace and love that move outwardly to touch the people and world around us.
Take heart, dear ones! God looks upon the heart!
As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him; for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust. Psalm 103:13-14
For the eyes of the Lord range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him. 2 Chronicles 16:9a
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Excellent post! Thanks
Thank you for reading, sister! May Jesus be lifted high in all we do! May you be encouraged in your faith and ministry. May the Holy Spirit flow through you to touch those you minister to this day. Thank you for laying down your life to help others know Jesus! You are an inspiration!
Blessings to you, brother! May we grow more and more after God’s own heart!
Have Your way in our lives Lord!!
You are the Potter, we are the clay. Give us softened hearts to be molded in your gentle hands, oh Lord.
In Jesus name, Amen!!
Beautifully written, clearly evidenced in God’s word, and spiritually acknowledged. May we thirst with desire to be men and women after God’s own heart through faith, love and repentance that gives God all the glory. Emotionally spent, breathlessly grateful that even sinners like me can be counted as men and women after God’s on heart.
Glory to our gracious God! I love how you say “Emotionally spent, breathlessly grateful that even sinners like me can be counted as men and women after God’s own heart.” As we look more carefully at the faith, love and repentance demonstrated by David, it is truly breathtaking to realize that yes, a sinner like him AND a sinner like me, could be a man or woman after God’s own heart. How mercifully beautiful. I pray along with you for an increased desire to be a man or woman after God’s heart through faith, love and repentance. May we love our precious Savior all the more! Bless you!
So true! Thank you!
Bless you, Valerie! May we see God’s amazing love for us, as walk in Christ, forgiven ones, after God’s own heart!
I am thankful God loves me and forgives me. I am thankful He wants the best for me. Even when I sin, He does not leave me. He waits for me to return to Him.
I’m so grateful, too, Melissa! What a good, good Father. He sees us. He knows what we have been through. He knows when we have fallen. He is with us and He is calling us to His side. Even after we have sinned deeply. David’s life gives evidence of God’s great love and forgiveness. How He loves us!
Thanks for this Missy. I too wondered why David was considered a man after Gods own heart. Your devotional breaks it down nicely. Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you, Pat, for taking the time to read and share your reflections. I have seriously wrestled with this idea since I was a teen. How could David, such a sinful man, be called a man after God’s own heart? Now that I have learned to see David’s heart response, especially that of repentance when confronted with his own sin, I see the message of the cross. God is truthful and just. But God is also gracious and merciful. And now, this very thing has become beautiful to me. That God would bestow such a tender compliment upon such a sinful person, is another testament to His mercy, grace and goodness. Though we should be reverent before our God who sees the depths of our being, we can also be grateful, for He is gracious and merciful. What a good, good Father!
Amen, Amen, and Amen over and over, Melissa! I just love how you’ve taken both Saul and David and completed a comparison and contrast. This is really good insight. And it’s all about the heart. When we look at acts of evil by leaders and from humans in general, it all starts in the heart. All 3 of your points must be balanced together. In fact, one without the others is not humble or effective leadership or an authentic heart after God. Faith, love for God AND His Word/law, and repentance all go hand in hand for a true heart that seeks after God.
Wow, Karen, this is such an excellent point! These three heart qualities – faith, love for God AND His Word/law, and repentance – do indeed need to be working in balance for anyone with a true heart seeking after God. Such an important insight! Holy Spirit, we ask you to search our hearts and know our innermost beings. Help us see areas where we need growth, redirection or balance to be a person after God’s own heart. Strengthen our faith. Melt our hearts to love You and Your Word, the Bible. Give us humble hearts and teachable spirits, willing to repent, willing to grow to reflect ever more the image of our precious Savior. For Your glory and our good! In Jesus’ name.
Blessings to you, sister!
You just keep bringing it sister! You share it like you mean it and I love you for that!
God bless you, sister! May the Holy Spirit continue to stir us to desire to be a person after God’s own heart. I love you and your writing, too. May Jesus shine brighter!
Thank you, Ramon! I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. God bless you, Dad!
I love the comparison between Saul and David, Melissa, and excellent question to address: How can a sinful person be a man after God’s heart? I appreciate your study and conclusion. David indeed had great faith and love for God and His Word. And what a great model of repentance. Thank you.
Thank you, Stephen. This question has nagged at me for a long time…How can a sinful person be a man after God’s heart? I’m really grateful God led me to this study and provided more clarity. It is such a deep blessing to realize we can all be a person after God’s own heart, remembering that God looks upon the heart, so we must come before Him with faith, love and true repentance – all matters of the heart. He has room to work in our hearts when we have not exalted ourselves. May we decrease, so He can increase!
This is such a good reminder of what matters most. It is easy to compare myself to social media standards but what I need to do is look to God for His feedback on my life.
You are so right, Shelby! How easy it is to focus our eyes on what others are doing – especially in social media. May we seek instead the heart of God, for that is what He seeks…our hearts. Blessings to you!
Amen to that!
How incredible to think that God looks at our heart and will use us based on what He sees in us. He does this even if we are not “perfect”. Thanks
I wholeheartedly agree, Yvonne! How incredible, that the God of all creation, the God of all truth and goodness, would forgive us, love us and use us even though we are not “perfect”. Such mercy, grace and kindness from our great God!
Thank you, Melissa. Well said. And the right path is open to everyone who is willing to be humble and to seek the Lord sincerely.
What a gift we are given by God! The gift of repentance. All throughout the Bible, the Lord God responds graciously to those who repent. May we not take for granted His gift of mercy. It is not our right, it is His gift. Keep us humble, oh Lord Jesus!